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Learn how to get your ex girlfriend back!Now, that’s a great question and you have come to the right place to find the answer! However, I will be honest with you and tell you straight away that the answer is not as simple as you probably think. Many guys come to me looking for the „magic sentence“ which will bring them their ex girlfriend back in one day like some kind of a magical love spell. But like I have said my previous article Dedication and Patience – The Key to Success, there is no “magic formula” that will bring your ex girlfriend back to you without any effort on your part.
If this information disappointed you or made you think that getting back your ex girlfriend is impossible, then I have good news for you. Getting back your ex girlfriend might not be simple, but it is very possible with the right method! I am one of those lucky guys who managed to get back his ex girlfriend and I have helped countless of my friends and people who contacted me via email to do the same.
I know how much it hurts to suddenly lose a person that you deeply loved and probably still love (otherwise you wouldn’t be here, right?). I have been through it and it was one of the hardest and worst periods of my life. If you are interested in reading the whole story of my break-up and how I got my ex girlfriend back, you can take a look at the How I Got My Girlfriend Back section, I don’t want to bore you with my story here.
So let’s go back your main question – how to get back your ex girlfriend? My answer is, let me help you! As I said, I successfully helped dozens of my friends and random people online to get back their ex girlfriends even though they almost always told me that it won’t work because their situation is „unique“ or „different“. But guess what, there is no such a thing as a unique break-up situation.
It all boils down to whether or not you were happy together for at least a short period of time. As I have explained in the post „When Can Relationship Be Revived“, if you two were happy together at one point, you can get your ex girlfriend back! Period. The reason why you broke up is completely irrelevant.
If you would like to receive free, PERSONAL advice on your situation from me, please email me at markhuggens@gmail.com. I will be happy to help you!
Finding out that your ex girlfriend is dating someone else can be uncomfortable even if you don’t have feeling for your ex girlfriend anymore. It makes one feel forgotten and easily replaced. What’s even worse is if you still DO have feelings for her. In such case finding out that she is already dating someone else might seem like all hope is lost. But don’t be so quick to give up! It might not be as hard as you think to get her back!
First of all, you need to at least consider the possibility that she is dating someone else just to make YOU jealous. I have seen this happen more often than you would think! Some of the signs include:
1. She is dating someone you know personally, like a friend of yours
2. She posts statuses/pictures on Facebook bragging about how happy she is with the new guy
3. She still keeps some sort of contact with you instead of moving on
If she shows at least 2 out of these 3 signs, the chances are quite high tht she is dating the new guy just to make you jealous! If not, don’t worry. She might be serious about her new relationship but there are always was to get your ex girlfriend back even if she is dating someone else.
First thing I I would like to point out is that if it really bothers you that your ex girlfriend is dating someone else, then chances are that you over-focusing on your ex girlfriend instead of noticing all the other girls around you. I understand that you want your ex girlfriend back and not some other girl, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t have some fun flirting with other girls. This will not only improve your self confidence but once the word gets out to your ex girlfriend, she will realize that YOU are replacing HER as well.
Even though she is dating someone else this will bother her in a way. Until now she knew that you were there, waiting for her, as a „back-up“ plan in case her current relationship didn’t work out. By pretending to move on you are giving her a clear sign that you will not be there for her forever! It might even feel HER jealous, since the saying „people want what they can’t have“ is very true indeed.
It is also important that whenever you get a chance to talk to your ex girlfriend, you don’t act desperate by showing her how much you truly miss her. Be funny, laid back and playful. Don’t talk about your relationship but instead tell her how much fun you are having! If she asks you if you are dating someone new, be as secretive about it as possible.
Remember the 5 common mistakes that guy’s make, you don’t want her to come back to you out of pity! You want her to be genuinely interested in you once again. And by following these tips, you can achieve that.
A common question that guys ask me is whether they try giving/sending flowers to their ex girlfriends after the break up as a means of apology. Although in some of my other posts I have specifically said to avoid giving your ex girlfriend any gifts, in some cases there are exceptions to this rule.
Let’s say your girlfriend broke up with you just very recently over something small. For example, you had a an argument and you said something which went a little too far, but your relationship is otherwise healthy and you know for sure that her decision to “break up” with you was just her impulsively lashing out.
In a case like this, you can go ahead and send flowers to her. A big bouquet and a sincere apology card written from the heart might just do the trick, and if not, it certainly won’t cause any harm. On the other hand, if the relationship has ended a while ago due to some more serious and “long-term” reasons, it is unlikely that simply sending your ex girlfriend flowers will be all it takes bring her back. Of course, that is not to say you can’t get your ex girlfriend back in such cases! You will just need to look into more “advanced” methods of getting her back, such as the ones recommended on this website.
There are certain rules you have to follow in a relationship. But when getting back ex girlfriend you have to break some of these rules if you ever want to succeed!
Here are 5 Rules you have to BREAK to get back ex girlfriend:
1. Pay LESS attention to your ex girlfriend:
In a relationship it is important that you both listen to each other and share all your fears and problems. If you don’t pay enough attention to your girlfriend she will break up with you sooner or later. Maybe this was even the cause of your break up. But when getting back ex girlfriend, paradoxically, less attention is better. The reason for this is because after the break up she needs space and time to think everything through, without you influencing her. Don’t get me wrong though, I am not telling you to start ignoring her completely! This would be just as bad as contacting her too much. Take the golden, middle route.
2. Do NOT get her any gifts:
In a relationship it’s almost necessary to give each other gifts from time to time. It shows your girlfriend you truly care for her and that she means a lot to you. They are also often used as an apology if you mess up something. But this strategy does not work once you break up! It will seem to your ex girlfriend that you are simply trying to “buy” her heart back and that you think that giving her a present will make her run back to you and everything will be OK again.
3. Do NOT spy on her:
In a healthy relationship you should have an idea where your girlfriend is and who she spends time with. Of course, it should not be overdone because she will think that you do not trust her and give her enough freedom. But when getting back ex girlfriend you have to break this rule too. She is a single now and therefore has no “obligation” to report to you what she is doing. Asking her about these things will make her feel like you are trying to monitor her. This will of course only annoy her.
4. Do NOT try to stop her from dating someone else
This is probably the hardest rule you have to break. Of course, you don’t want this to happen, that’s why you have to start taking action fast before your ex girlfriend finds a new guy. But in case it happens do not fight with your ex about it! As mentioned in rule 3, she is a single now and can do whatever she wants. Trying to push her to break up with her new boyfriend will have an exact opposite effect. She will not listen to you to show you that she is independent now and that she can live without you. It might be hard to watch your ex girlfriend with another guy but there is not much you can do. That’s why you have to act quickly before it happens!
5. Do NOT become her best friend after the break up
Girls usually want to keep a strong friendship with their ex boyfriends after a break up. She will tell you that you still mean much to her but she only wants friendship from now on. Don’t agree to this. Don’t be mean or rude but keep distance. When you become best friends instead of partners you will still be around for her so she won’t feel any pain of losing you. Besides you will have to listen to her talking about new guys to you which can be extremely painful. Keep your distance after the break up and show her that everything won’t be great as if nothing happened.
Believe it or not but in more than 90% of cases relationships can be revived.
There is one very simple way to tell if your relationship can be revived.
Ask yourself: Were you BOTH happy together at one point, even if it was a short period of time?
If you had a working relationship even for just a short period of time you can almost definitely get your ex girlfriend back.
Think of it, if you were happy together it means 2 things:
1. She definitely had and probably still has some feelings you.
2. Your ex girlfriend misses those happy times just as much as you!
If you never had a working relationship and your ex girlfriend never really loved you as much as you loved her, i am very sorry but it means you two are incompatible. You will just have to accept the fact that she doesn’t feel the same way towards you as you feel towards her.
A break up with a girlfriend is one of the most painful experiences in a mans life. And I know what I am talking about because I have been there and so have million of men.
I would define it as a mixture of so many feelings: anger, sadness, depression, confusion, emptiness, loneliness and so much more, all at once.
Many men tend to deal with these feelings differently, and in most cases incorrectly.
Response 1: Getting drunk and hooking up with a random girl
Although it’s true that this method will get your ex girlfriend and all the pain out of your head for a while, you will feel terrible afterwards. Once you are sober you will feel sorry and disgusted by what you have done and the feeling of pain you felt before will be back. Only this time it will be accompanied by another terrible feeling – guilt. This “method” only postpones everything and will not help you to feel better nor get your ex girlfriend back.
Response 2: Falling in depression and doing NOTHING
This is probably the most common reaction. After a break up men “lock” themselves up at home and do NOTHING at all other than feeling sorry for themselves. They try to forget their ex girlfriends instead of fighting to get them back. And when they finally gathet the courage to fight, she has already moved on and found someone else.
Response 3: “Bombarding” their ex girlfriends in panic
This is one of the 5 common mistakes described in THIS ARTICLE. After a break-up guys start “bombarding” their ex girlfriends with phone calls, emails, love cards, flowers, chocolates, teddy bears etc. Do not attempt this. Do not cut the contact with your ex girlfriend but keep is SENSIBLE! Otherwise you will annoy her and she might be the one to cut contact with you!
I always say dedication and patience are the two aspects which decide whether you will get your ex girlfriend back or not. The guys who don’t have the dedication and patience never get their girlfriends back.
Many guys believe that all it takes to get back their ex girlfriends is to call her, tell her a “magic formula” and their girlfriends will run back to them immediately. This is absolutely wrong….
Getting back an ex girlfriend is a complete process in which you will have to rebuild her trust in you from a scratch. It is definitely not easy and it takes a real man.
And now we get to the part where you find out whether you have the necessary dedication. Did this fact put you off? Are you not interested in getting your ex girlfriend back anymore? This fact usually puts off guys who don’t really love their ex girlfriends. Their ex girlfriends are simply not worth the “effort” to them. If this fact did NOT put you off and you are willing to fight for your ex girlfriend no matter what it takes this means you have the dedication. This is a crucial fact which dramatically increases your chances of success because girls can sense extremely well whether a guy truly cares for them.
Unfortunately dedication is not all you need. Getting back an ex girlfriend also takes a lot of patience. The process is not only difficult but it also takes a while. Could be few weeks or few months. For me it took 8 weeks to get my ex girlfriend back, (you can read my complete story here: how I got my ex girlfriend back), but it was no brainer for me because I loved her ( and to this day still love her) dearly.
If none of this put you off I want to congratulate you. This means you have the dedication and patience to get back an ex girlfriend. This increases your chances of getting her back well above 80% (unless your relationship never worked as explained in When Can Relationship Be Revived)
Here are the 5 most common mistakes guys make when getting back their ex girlfriends for you to avoid!
Mistake 1: “Bombarding” Your Ex Girlfriend
This is definitely the no.1 mistake almost all guys make when trying to get back their ex girlfriend. So what do I mean by bombarding? By bombarding I mean, constantly seeking for contact with her by any means necessary and in any form. For example: calling her numerous times a day, texting her, emailing her, sending her flowers and gifts, inviting her out etc.
This is a huge mistake because this approach will sooner or later annoy your ex girlfriend and cause her to completely cut the contact with you, making it a lot harder to get her back later.
Mistake 2: Acting depressed to make her come back to you out of pity
Another very common mistake. Guys often act depressed in front of their ex girlfriends hoping they will feel sorry for them and come back to them out of pity. Although this strategy might be “successful” in some cases, guys often don’t realize the consequences. By doing this you are basically forcing your ex girlfriend to come back to you by putting big psychological pressure on her, its a terrible feeling to look at someone suffering because of you. So even if she comes back to you out of pity, she will be unhappy and your relationship will not work well.
Mistake 3: Hanging out with other women to make her feel jealous
A very popular technique which is believed to be successful is to hang out with other girls in front of your ex girlfriend to make her feel jealous. Just as mistake 2 this approach might work in SOME cases but it can have destructive effects in other cases. Yes, your ex girlfriend could either feel jealous and fight for you or she will feel hurt thinking it was easy for you to replace her and forget her. This could destroy your chances of ever getting her back! So let me ask you, do you really want to take that risk?
Mistake 4: Being just “too nice”
You might think being nice to your ex girlfriend is a good thing. And it certainly is, i am not telling you to start acting like a complete jerk now! But there are limits to everything. You have to keep your manhood and pride too! Otherwise she might just manipulate you and use you.
Mistake 5: Telling her it was all your fault and you will change
Similar to mistake 4. Never say that you were the only reason why your relationship ended and that you are the only one that has to change! Relationship is about two people respecting each other and you are both responsible for the problems you had in your relationship. You will both have to change to make sure you don’t repeat the same mistakes as before.
If you want truly get your ex girlfriend back, it is very important to learn what to and what not to do… I learned this myself when trying to get back my ex girlfriend. After I broke up with my girlfriend I started asking my friends and even on the Internet for help. Many tried to discourage me by saying things like “Move on, you will find a better one” or “Just forget her, you will never get her back”. Others gave me silly tips (which I actually tried) such as “Send her flowers”, “Call her and tell her how sorry you are” etc.
After trying all these silly tips I felt that I pushed her even further away from me and she was becoming quite annoyed by me. You can read the rest of my story about how I got my ex girlfriend back.
What I am trying to say is: Don’t listen to people who don’t really know what they are talking about.
In most cases other people will either discourage you by telling you to move on or they will give you cliche tips which don’t work and can even push your ex girlfriend even further away from you.
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My name is Mark Huggens. I am 29 years old from California, US. I, just like millions of men had to go through a break up with my beloved girlfriend. But I was fortunate enough to get her back. After this experience I decided I will create a website that will help men that are in the same situation as I once was. Read my full story to learn how I got my ex girlfriend back.
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I'm writing you this email to let you know that me and my girlfriend just got married! At my wedding I couldn't stop thinking about how different things could have turned out if I didn't find this website. We broke up last year after a horrible argument and I was sure I would never get her back after that. Luckily I found your website and started following the methods in Matt Huston's guide. In just one month we were back together and now, 8 months later we are happily married and our relationship is better than ever. So I just wanted to say a big "thank you" for all the help and great advice that you provide on your website!