Common Mistakes In Trying To Get Back Together With An Ex
Breaking up and getting back together is a fairly common event with a lot of the couples that I know, but no matter how many times some of these people try to get back together with their ex’s, most of them still continue to make the same mistakes over and over again. Repeatedly committing these mistakes is usually the reason why certain couples ultimately do not end up getting back together at some point and alienate themselves from one another.
You can actually lower the risk of ruining your chances of getting back together with your ex by avoiding the common mistakes that many people make. Here are a few things that you should be careful to avoid.
Don’t Beg And Plead With Your Ex
Begging your ex to get back together with you will only reinforce his decision to not get back together with you and finally get over your break up and move on, as this will make you appear pathetically needy. Nobody wants to be in a relationship with a weak, needy person, as this can lead to a lot of problems later on. You seem desperate when you beg someone to get back together with you. You not only push your ex away, but you also diminish the respect that people have for you by begging. Resist the urge because it is counterproductive and damaging to both your public image and your self image.
Don’t Let Your Pride Get In The Way
Getting back together with your ex can prove difficult of neither of you is willing to give in and swallow your pride. In order for things to work out between you and your ex, one of you needs to take the high road, which sometimes means not letting your ego get the best of you. No one wants to deal with a person who refuses to compromise, and insists on having things his own way all the time. Once one of you concedes some point, the other person typically follows.
Jealousy Just Makes For More Drama – Do You Really Need That?
One of the more commonly recommended, but dangerous, remedies for a break up is to make the other person jealous by making your ex see that you are happy with another person. Contrary to popular belief, doing this may not make your ex realize that you both should get back together, as you intended, but could actually make your ex feel animosity towards you and your behaviour. This is a calculated and manipulative act, and chances are, once your ex figures out that you are doing this on purpose to make him jealous, you can chances of getting back together will be slim.
This should be obvious, but some people forget the obvious while overwhelmed with emotions – fighting with your ex is not the best way to get him (or her) to get back together with you. A break up can be painful for both partners, so make sure that when both of you are ready to talk about trying to work things out and getting back together, avoid becoming confrontational, especially if you are determined to get an apology from your ex for the things that he might have done wrong leading to the break up. Keep in mind that you are there to get back together, not play the blaming game. Learn to talk about your problems in a non-hostile way to avoid any miscommunication and misunderstanding.
These are some of the most common mistakes that people make when trying to get back together with an ex boyfriend or girlfriend. There’s no reason you can’t avoid them and give yourself that much of a better chance of getting back together with your ex.
Originally posted 2016-12-17 07:25:52.