It isn’t any fun to see your ex move on quickly, especially when your relationship ended due to their commitment issues.
“[My ex] said he wasn’t able to give me what I wanted,” says Savannah C.*, 18. “Three weeks later, he was an official item with another girl. Needless to say, I was devastated. A few days ago, I saw on Facebook that they’re engaged. It hurt because we were happy together, and we really had something good.”
A situation like this can feel like a stab in the back. Try to think about it logically. Compatibility with a partner does not determine your worth. It has to do with whether or not two people are a good match. That guy simply wasn’t right for you, so you can’t let him determine your worth.
If nothing else, at least you’re not alone! Just remember that there is a slew of models who dated Adam Levine during his anti-marriage phase…right before he proposed to Victoria’s Secret Angel Behati Prinsloo.
If your ex tells you about his recent engagement, remember to react with grace and poise. It will be tempting to demand an explanation for why he wasn’t ready for commitment with you. Resist that urge! Whatever his answer may be, it won’t impact the outcome. Asking will just make you look desperate (and you are way better than that). Instead, wish him the best. Then you have full permission to call your bestie and have her confirm that you are totally prettier and funnier than his new fiancee!
Originally posted 2016-11-26 15:06:28.