Okay, so you are sitting around eating cookies and ice cream, drinking soda pop and watching rerun movies trying to entertain yourself while you are wonder if you will be able to get back with your ex girlfriend. There are some house rules you must follow if you ever expect to win her back. First and foremost, don’t run back to her like a bull in a china shop expecting her to make all kinds of concessions.
Sure you’re embarrassed; your feelings are hurt and you don’t feel like getting out of bed or going to work, even though you try not to show it. Keep in mind that she has feelings too and may be experiencing similar hurt. This is a delicate situation. It’s like trying to walk on eggshells. Step lightly. One wrong move and you can permanently crack the whole relationship. You’ll only make things worse.
Alright, so it’s time for some soul-searching and some honesty about what caused this break up.
1 – You’ll first want to own up to what you did to cause this break up in the first place. Girls don’t wake up one morning and say they’re going to break up with guys out of the blue They don’t act without justification. You’ve got to know what problem you’re trying to solve. Without an honest and candid acknowledgment on your part, the effort is doomed from the start. First you’ll need to identify what went wrong in the first place. Come up with how it could have been prevented so you don’t do it again and make sure it doesn’t happen again.
2 – Without heehawing around admit it if this break up is solely your fault. Next, genuinely and honestly communicate to your girlfriend that you are aware of what happened and that you recognize it is all your fault. This will help to rekindle the flame. Most significantly genuinely express that you are sorry for your actions and the all of the consequences which followed as a result.
3 – Don’t make the mistake of dropping off the social scene. Even though you expect to get back with your ex, you’ll want to continue socializing with other people. This is not the time to be a hermit and hide in your came. Respect the fact that you are a responsible adult and maintain your relationships with others. That means you should date another girl, have fun with your friends and associates. This may result in your ex girlfriend become jealous. Don’t worry. That could work to your advantage.
4 – You got to show that you’ve moved on and your ex needs to see that you have, but do be certain to show her that you still care about her. The most ideal way to get here eventually get her back is to communicate to her that you have not completely moved on. Express that you yet have feelings for her and you’ll appear more mature and desirable to he.
5 – Finally, understand the that it is vitally important that you work diligently to become friends with your ex again. This builds trust and helps to create a bond of closeness between the two of you.
As things smooth out, gently and caringly ask here why you broke up in the first place. Be casual about avoiding an appearance of desperation. What you’re looking for is an admission on her part that it was a mistake for the two of you to have broken up. Or, she may even admit that it was a good thing and for the betterment of the relationship. Once you get the answer, you can proceed from there.
Originally posted 2017-03-20 13:18:31.