Have you lost her and are asking “how to get my girlfriend back?” Are you being honest, or are your fingers crossed whenever you see her? Every relationship has its ups and downs and all out disasters. Sometimes it’s just a bump in the road. But other times the disaster leads to a break-up. What are you going to do about it?
So she’s left you.
The last thing you want to do is start trying to convince her that she wants or needs you back. Walk down that road and she might give you the permanent boot. Convincing her that she needs you might just start to aggravate her to the point that she doesn’t want to see you anymore. The more you get on her case, the less she’ll want to see you again.
You know what it is that sent her away from you, so you need to apologize to her. Now is not the time for your pride to rise up and say, “It wasn’t my fault!” Isn’t this what gets most people in this type of trouble in the first place? Apologize for what you did to hurt her. Do it now and don’t delay.
Don’t forget, when you apologize a little gift can’t hurt. What does your gal like, her favorite music, some perfume, or maybe a nice trinket? Whatever it is, you need to get it to add some sincerity to your apology.
How do you feel without being with your girlfriend? Is it love or just plain infatuation? Remember back to what drew you to her in the first place: her looks, her laugh, or maybe it truly was her personality. You need to determine if you want her back. Is it because you love her, or is it because of the way she looks or the car she has! Determine where your heart is at with her.
It is very important that you are there for her. As you take the steps to get her back, you want to show that you are ready and willing to help her whenever she asks. This shows that you are willing to give in and not have your own way. Maybe this is why you broke up, so it may be the time to redeem yourself.
Whatever you do, don’t be negative towards or about your ex girlfriend.
Not about what she does, how she looks, about her friends or her family. Nothing will drive her away from you faster than your negative attitude. If you find it difficult getting positive, try reading some good books about having a positive attitude.
Now comes the hard part. You need to come to terms with what you did to break things up and look at what you need to do to fix them and be a great boyfriend. You name it, it’s been done: wrong words, anger, unfaithfulness, violence, and the list can go on. Whatever you have done, you need to deal with it and fix it if you want to get your girlfriend back.
Remember to show her that you still love her. Many times when people break up, they can’t see beyond their own hurts and anger. And they certainly can’t see anything positive about their former love.
How do you show your love? It will probably have to be by giving her some space for a while, and then be there for her. Come to her on her terms, because if you push it too hard, she may turn from you once and for all.
Now you have some ideas to put into practice when you ask “how to get my girlfriend back”. Come to terms with what you did to break things up, give her some space, and then be there for her. Above all, don’t try to suffocate her by always being there for her. Show her you love her and give her time to see why she needs you again.
Originally posted 2017-03-24 14:15:48.