Part of what will help here is simply becoming more comfortable with yourself. It sucks at first, but feeling this way is usually a sign that you need a bit of alone time, in order to learn how to fully love yourself.
In terms of finding someone new, it will happen when you least expect it. The more you feel as if you are desperately seeking a new guy, the less likely it is that you’ll actually find one.
As for moving on from your breakup, here are some of my best tips.
- Strip your sheets. It may sound weird, but it really helps (especially if your ex used to sleep over often). Getting a fresh start with your bedding helps you to relax, and removes any nagging memories.
- Hit the gym. Sweating it out is a great mood booster. Try a higher intensity workout during the day – like Zumba or boot camp. Then follow it with a more relaxing nighttime workout – such as pilates or yoga.
- Treat yourself to a makeover. It’s common for women to drastically change their hair in an attempt to move on from a breakup. Save yourself the embarrassment. Instead, treat yourself to some new makeup. You’ll feel like a new you, and the change isn’t permanent.
- Freak out responsibly. It’s natural to want to spend time over-analyzing what happened. Give your brain set amounts of time for panicking in a more healthful way.
- Spend 30 days with no contact. This is the best way to move on quickly from your ex, while also proving to yourself that you can survive without him.
- Delete him on social media. It may seem harsh, but unfriend / unfollow / un-whatever your ex, in order to minimize unnecessary painful reminders of the breakup.
- Talk to your gal pals, and tell them what you really need. After all, that’s what they are there for!
- Boost your confidence by trying something new and a little bit challenging. It will distract your mind, while making your feel kick-ass at the same time.
- Snuggle your pet. Spending time with a furry friend is great for healing emotional wounds. If you don’t have a pet of your own, volunteer at the local shelter. You could even borrow your friend’s pet for an afternoon.
- Travel. Once you are feeling a bit more like yourself, try taking a trip. Any getaway, big or small, will prove to be an enjoyable experience as your heart starts to heal more.
Best of luck! And remember, you’re better off without that loser anyways!
Originally posted 2016-11-26 14:45:55.