I would define it as a mixture of so many feelings: anger, sadness, depression, confusion, emptiness, loneliness and so much more, all at once.

Crazy thoughts go through a mans mind during this phase of the break up.

Many men tend to deal with these feelings differently, and in most cases incorrectly.

Response 1: Getting drunk and hooking up with a random girl

Although it’s true that this method will get your ex girlfriend and all the pain out of your head for a while, you will feel terrible afterwards. Once you are sober you will feel sorry and disgusted by what you have done and the feeling of pain you felt before will be back. Only this time it will be accompanied by another terrible feeling – guilt. This “method” only postpones everything and will not help you to feel better nor get your ex girlfriend back.

Response 2: Falling in depression and doing NOTHING

This is probably the most common reaction. After a break up men “lock” themselves up at home and do NOTHING at all other than feeling sorry for themselves. They try to forget their ex girlfriends instead of fighting to get them back. And when they finally gathet the courage to fight, she has already moved on and found someone else.

Response 3:  “Bombarding” their ex girlfriends in panic

This is one of the 5 common mistakes described in THIS ARTICLE. After a break-up guys start “bombarding” their ex girlfriends with phone calls, emails, love cards, flowers, chocolates, teddy bears etc. Do not attempt this. Do not cut the contact with your ex girlfriend but keep is SENSIBLE! Otherwise you will annoy her and she might be the one to cut contact with you!