For some reason, it seems like there’s a lot more written about how girls can get their ex boyfriends back than the other way around. But let’s face it – sometimes you just don’t want to lose her. If you’re one of those guys, and you’re wondering what it will take to get your ex girlfriend to come back, here are some proven tips.
First you have to understand that this isn’t easy. You might be angry or hurt. And whether or not you think she should be, your ex might be hurt, too. So you have to take this slow and easy. Be careful how you handle things so that you don’t just make it worse.
First, and maybe most important, think about what happened to cause your breakup. Girls don’t usually break up with their boyfriends for no reason at all. This isn’t to say it was your fault. But if you did do something to bring it about, figure out what it was and how you can fix the problem.
Next, if you end up deciding you really WERE at fault, then you have to let her know that. You might think girls respect guys for being tough. But in fact, they really like it when a guy is tough enough to admit he was wrong. This doesn’t mean you have to be weak or beg – just admit what happened, that you recognize it was your fault, and that you are sorry that things happened the way they did.
In some cases, this is all it will take to get your ex girlfriend back. But if not, you need to keep living your life. Even if you are trying to win back your ex, spend time with friends, go out and have fun – even date another girl if you want to. She needs to know that even though you still care, you can survive without her if necessary. THIS is when it’s important to be strong. Not mean, just strong.
At the same time, you want to let her know that you still care. This might seem like the opposite of what I wrote in the last paragraph, but it’s not. Show her that you want her, that you care about her – but NOT that you NEED her to survive. Girls don’t like “needy” men. The message should be this: you are moving on, but you care about her, miss her and wish you could still be together. Most girls will see this as a real sign of strength and maturity.
Finally, you need to be friends. If there was a lot of anger and hurt in your breakup, it can take time to rebuild trust and connection. Before you can be lovers again, you have to be friends. As you get closer and more comfortable, the sparks will rekindle.
When the time is right, talk to her about the breakup. Don’t be emotional, angry or desperate; just casual, like two friends talking. Ask her why SHE thinks you broke up, and whether she thinks you could make it work again. She will tell you, one way or the other. And once you know, you can either keep working or move on.
Like you, I’ve been through this. What I’ve written here isn’t easy. It takes time, patience and the ability to be understanding. But if you really want your ex girlfriend back, give it a try. You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.
Originally posted 2016-12-17 07:06:48.