You broke up – and now you’re not so sure. If only you could talk to your ex, you’re sure you could work things out.
But they won’t return your calls.
You may not believe this, but there are “magic words” that can make your ex feel they have no CHOICE but to return your phone calls. These words are that powerful.
You can’t wait to read them, right?
I’m going to tell you. But first, I have to tell you something very important. Getting your ex to come back requires a lot more than getting them to return your call, text or IM. In fact, if you do this one thing alone, and nothing else, you are almost certain NOT to win them back.
I’ll tell you how to learn everything you need to know to get your ex back. But first, let’s get to those calls.
What NOT to say…
Before you learn that magic spell, you need to know two things you should never do – simply because they rarely, if ever, work. Plus they put you in a terrible position in the relationship.
First, is BEGGING.
You’re begging if your message sounds something like this: “Adam, please. I really have to talk to you. I’ve been calling all week. Please call me back?” And even worse if you throw in, “I’m BEGGING you!”
You may think you’re appealing to his sympathy. But all you’re doing is acting weak, pathetic and unattractive. Even if Adam did call back, he would have no respect for you.
By the way, guys do this just as often (and maybe more) than girls.
The second is URGENCY.
“Debbie, I have something really important to tell you. Call me as soon as you get this.” And whatever you do, don’t use the word “emergency.”
Why won’t this work? Because there IS no urgent reason for her to call. It’s a lie, a trick. And as soon as she finds out (and she will), she will just be angry and resentful. You may hear her voice – but only for a few seconds before she hangs up on you.
The Magic Spell: Curiosity, Positivity and WIIFM
If you use this approach, there is almost no way your ex will be able to resist returning your call.
First, inspire their curiosity. Second, make your message positive. And finally, consider WIIFM. What’s WIIFM? “What’s in it for me?” It’s a powerful motivator, and by leaving a message that your ex will get something out of, you’ll have them calling back in seconds.
Combine these three things, and you’ll be communicating before you know it.
How does it sound?
Well – and this is really important – you have to plan ahead, know what it is you’re going to say AND talk about when they call you. But here’s an example.
In a very friendly, casual tone of voice, you might say, “Hi Adam, it’s Debbie. I hope you’re well. I’m just calling to thank you for what you did for me. When you get a chance, give me a call back so I can tell you in person, ok?”
John will instantly be curious: what did he do for you that you want to thank him for? Your tone tells him you’re positive, not angry, desperate or stressed out. And you made it about him; HE is going to get praise if he calls you back. WIIFM? A compliment.
What are you going to thank him for?
Well, that’s the trick. You need to prepare BEFORE you leave the message. It can be anything, but it has to be believable.
IMPORTANT! If you don’t have a plan, a strategy, you will do more damage with this technique than good, if you don’t know how to handle it.
What you do before the call, during the call back and after your communicating is the key to winning back your ex – and ultimately a lot more important than just getting a return call.
This is just one small technique to help you get your ex back. Make sure you know what you’re doing. And if you do it right, you just may be back together before you know it.
Originally posted 2016-12-17 07:07:50.